House of Wolves - A Power Couple's Playbook

Intro: Turning Relationships into Business Success

November 27, 2023 Randy & Mary Vasquez Episode 1
House of Wolves - A Power Couple's Playbook
Intro: Turning Relationships into Business Success
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What if your relationship could be the driving force behind your business success? Join us, Randy and Mary, as we peel back the curtain on our journey as a power couple. Embark on this exciting exploration where we candidly share our experiences in building successful businesses together, making real estate investments, while keeping our relationship strong and nurturing our family. We share our victories, challenges, and personal growth stories, offering you a treasure trove of practical tools and strategies to navigate your own life and relationships.

Imagine seamlessly transitioning between personal and business conversations while balancing your hectic schedule. We dive into the backbone of our partnership, highlighting the importance of trust, communication, accountability, and a growth mindset. With our insights, learn how to prioritize important discussions without pushing them to the backburner. Don't miss out on this dynamic and enlightening dialogue, designed to inspire you in your business venture, personal growth, and relationships. Listen in to discover how two people committed to supporting each other can create a legacy of success.

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Randy:

Welcome everybody to the House of Wolves podcast, the Power Couple edition. My name is Randy, aka the Broke Millinaire, and I'm joined by my beautiful wife, Mary, aka Mary__Mar.

Mary:

Hello everyone. Thank you for joining us today.

Randy:

So we are what we would you would call a power couple, and we've decided to do this podcast for, I think, one specific reason, and that's because some people, a lot of people actually in our network, friends, people who know us, people that we work with, when they see us, when they are around us, they understand who we are, they know what we do. They constantly ask us hey, how are you guys able to work together, be successful in working together while still not hating each other, while still loving each other and being a relationship right? I'm diving right in in that sense, because I can tell you that Mari and I are married, but we also work together. We're also business partners, so we're constantly around each other, constantly doing. Everything we do is movement together Like we're safe. A podcast, I think, is going to be the perfect outlet for us to be able to speak about those things, talk about our journey, talk about our experience and what's worked for us, and hopefully we can relay that message to others.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely. You know, Randy and I started dating seven years ago, six years married Together. You know we have become successful real estate investors, with about 15 units now in County. We have also established three successful businesses, Six figures mark. Actually. One of them should be hitting the seventh figure mark within the first quarter of 2022.

Randy:

That's going to.

Mary:

It's going to it's going to and together we have also other things brewing and we have many, many, many plans in the years to come.

Randy:

Absolutely. And with that right, you know, the whole power couple thing that I just mentioned is not just about the stuff that we've built together, but it's been about our ability to build each other up as individuals as well. Right, and so you know we've had. We met seven years ago. We didn't have any of this stuff established. You know, both of us were trying to figure out live, figure out what was next for us, what it looked like, and when we met, we were ready for each other in terms of like, wow, you're kind of that missing piece for me. Let's get together because we're ready to take this to the next level.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely, and that's really important because we were ready for each other, right, yeah, and? And what Randy says is that we have our individual careers and together we compliment on that and how we come together. So, for instance, randy, what don't?

Randy:

So, yeah, so for me, you know again, Mary's the one who manages all our businesses, right, the three businesses that she mentioned. We have a property management business, a car business how motors you can, you can follow us on Instagram at how motors and we also have a construction business as well, while still continuing to invest in real estate right, and Mary's the actual person that runs the day to day operations. She is the chief executive, offer, the CEO, of all those businesses. She hates that, by the way, but she is. She's the one that. That is the face of all of that for us, and all of our businesses are House of Wolves right, a House of Wolves something, so you'll catch on on why we chose to call this House of Wolves podcast. But, with that, at the same time, though, you know, mary's managing the business. I'm helping her with it. We're building, we're investing, we're doing different things, we're living our lives. We're continuing to grow together. I've also, in those seven years, been able to grow as an individual. I am an executive at a Fortune 500 company, and I've been able to get to that point while being with Mary. When I, when we got together, when we started dating, I was just a manager right, and I was been since that. In seven years I've been able to continue to get promoted, move up, you know, have different responsibilities, build a bigger team, bigger roles, make more money Right, and it's all been at the same time while I'm building my life with Mary from a personal side, from an investing side, from a business side as well.

Mary:

Yeah.

Randy:

And Mary has her own things as well. So I want you to talk a little bit about the things you do.

Mary:

Yeah, so, um, you saw a little bit of my introduction there. So, yes, guys, I am the managing owner of Helmwaters, which is a luxury and exotic car rental business here in central Florida. I am also co-owner of pencil off, which is a copywriting agency, uh, where we provide, uh, wonderful work for our clients. Um, as well as, um, I am a mentor for other entrepreneurs also trying to enter the car rental business, so that's also a side gig that Randy and I share together. Um, among that, we also have some other things brewing, um, so my roles are often insurmountable, um, but career wise, you know, chief copywriter and managing owner of Helmwaters among property management and alley alley partners, all of that stuff, all of that stuff.

Randy:

So Mary wears a lot of different hats on a daily basis, um, as well as support me in my, in my career, uh, so that I can continue to grow as well. And look, that's all the the nice stuff, right, the stuff that we've accomplished the, the properties, the business, the money, all that all while we are parents and I think we're bringing pretty successful in that as well, and I'm patting myself on the back on that Uh, we have a beautiful six year old and a beautiful four year old, um, two daughters that are just amazing kids, um, and Mary, and I laugh because every time one of them hits a birthday, we're like we really kept them alive this long. Yeah, we really did that, and that's like a huge accomplishment for us, which which it should be, uh, but with that, you know, those are all the good stuff, all the, all the great stuff the, the growing, the businesses, the, the making the money that live in the life. Look, mary and I live our life. We definitely live our life. We vacation hard, we party hard, in the sense of like, we do the things that we want to do. We sacrifice a lot to get to a wrap, but we don't sacrifice on our lives and on their enjoyment on the fun side of it, right, um. So those are all good stuff. But look, we've had a lot of trials and tribulations as well.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely. Um, randy and I actually went through a very difficult part in our relationship. Uh, we almost got divorced, we actually got separated, and it wasn't until we hit that rock bottom where we lost uh, no, no enormous opportunities. Um, our businesses went to shit and our relationship went, you know, in the gutter and, um, it wasn't until that pivoting moment in our lives that we came back together and I think that since then we have been stronger and unstoppable. I have a tremendous admiration for Randy and appreciation for him, more so than I ever have, because of that beautiful accident.

Randy:

Beautiful accident. We call it a cold war, by the way we do.

Mary:

It was a period.

Randy:

It was pretty tough for everybody. So, look, you know, with that, you know, I just want to. The reason why we mentioned that straight off the bat is because I want you good to understand that this is not just about hey, you know the great stuff the beautiful stuff and the cool stuff. This is also about listen, you're going to go through some hard shit, right, and how do you figure those things out? You know, mary mentioned that when we went through the cold war, uh, we lost a lot of opportunities, a lot of business opportunities. We lost a lot of money. We got ourselves into major debt, um, into major issues, shit. I, I, I almost got fired from my job because I just wasn't performing my head. It wasn't the right place. We moved from where we live. We basically gave away all of our furniture because we were just trying to get out of there. Um, it was just a, it was a shit show, right. And we've learned through those experiences that have only made us stronger. Now, where we have actual plans and defined roles in terms of, you know, I would say, like a contingency plan, if that shit happens again, what do we do?

Mary:

Yeah, because we didn't have one before, and that's why it was such a shit show. We didn't know what the fuck we were doing. Nobody has a plan for when they're going to get divorced, but now we do, yeah.

Randy:

And that sounds crazy, but you know you got to be ready for that because essentially, right, yeah, you talk about well, not be ready for divorce, but be ready for the unplanned things that life just fucking throws at you. That's a good point. That's a good point, yeah, but things throw at you because you never really know what's going to happen, right? And if you look at us specifically in our situation, we have two daughters. Right, we have two, two kids that we are responsible for. And just because me and her are not getting along or we don't have our shit together, that doesn't mean that they need to suffer. Yeah, absolutely.

Mary:

And we also have employees that depend on us as well, like if we make mistakes and the business suffers. Well, guess what?

Randy:

Yeah.

Mary:

They're impacted as well, so it's a trickling effect. Um, yeah, and I think that, um, through the learning experiences that we've had since that, um, we've really come together and defined our roles.

Randy:

Yeah, we definitely have, and we've defined our roles in terms of like, hey, what are you responsible for? What am I responsible for? All right, cool, you're good at that, I'm good at this, this is my role, I go this way, you go that way, and we just continue to move forward on the things that we're doing, and we've learned through that to be able to separate the business part from the personal side, right? So we understand now. Business is business and you know Q let's hug, let's kiss, let's, let's be together. It's it's own time as well.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely, and um, it's, it's a muscle that needs to be exercised and, um, it's not easy. Um, it's definitely a skill set. Um, I'm not saying that we learned this overnight, like we literally had to go through hell to be able to sit here and have a conversation about it. And, and I think is through that very experience, um, and through our you know, our multifaceted life and our on on our thought ox life and our on orthodox way of thinking, um, that we have strategically been able to lean in on each other's trends and really come together to align our goals for our businesses, for for our family, for us in our individual careers and for the love that we have for each other in our relationship and in everything else that we do. That has allowed us to be, um, this comfortable saying that we are successful.

Randy:

Right, no, absolutely. So. Look, we hope that with this podcast, you're going to get um, tips, tools, tricks, um, and you're going to get it through storytelling right, you were going to share our experiences. We're going to share how we've defined our goals and how we've aligned on that to be not just killing it together but also, uh, individual. And look, you know, for some of you you might think, hey, this is not a big deal. Whatever, you know, you're a couple of. You got to continue to grow. But look, if you look at the pandemic that that we're going through right now, uh, divorced rates increased right Immediately and it's because people now had to spend their whole time with their significant other. We're like, oh, you kind of fucking suck, I don't have nowhere to go. What do I do with this person? But for us, like, think about that, that's our daily life, like every day, even without a pandemic.

Mary:

Yeah.

Randy:

We, we wake up together, we work together, we go to sleep together, like it's, it's a 24 hour operation with us.

Mary:

Yeah, and we have been able to do that through defined goals.

Randy:

Yeah, absolutely. I mean that the defined goals is is definitely important. Um, defined goals, defined roles right, we have constant conversations every single year, I think. We sit down and we talk about okay, you know what's our five year plan, what's our three year plan, you know what's our one year plan and you know how are we going to do it? Do the five, three, one method. And we also have a long term plan in terms of, okay, where do we want to get to in the future? Right, where do we want to be when we grow up? Who do we want to be when we grow up? Yeah, and we always come back to that where we're like, okay, we're having challenges, we're having troubles, we're having issues, both personally and the business. Is what we're doing right now leading us to where we ultimately want to be? And if it's not, then we understand we have to pivot or we got to do things a bit different, right, and I think those goals are awesome, right, in terms of knowing where you're going, but I think what's more important is having a foundation of how you're going to get there, and that's through the core values that you and I have established.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely, randy, and I wholeheartedly believe in core values. Just like a company you may think have eat those core values, a cornerstone we have. Ours and yours may be different, but we truly believe and abide by trust. You know, any relationship has to have trust and this is where you know, we know that we're there for each other, no matter what. Honestly, this is not about trust like, oh, he's not cheating me, this is just about whether we're in a good situation or in a bad situation. We know that we have each other's back like literally no questions asked. We just have to be there and be dependable. Authenticity in our relationship is also a key core value to us. It really allows us to be ourselves and give us, gives us, the freedom to provide good and bad feedback. Again, it's all about balance, the good and the bad. So the authenticity aspect allows us to, you know, feel 100% capable of speaking transparently to your partner and say, hey, honestly, you were a jerk and that was.

Randy:

You suck like, you bombed like how can you do that?

Mary:

Or hey, by the way, like what's going on with you lately. Like you know, you're not like on your shit.

Randy:

And understand that that's not a negative thing, like I'm communicating and I want the best for you, right.

Mary:

Yeah, and it's absolutely my responsibility and your responsibility to that, because nobody's gonna step up to do that to me.

Randy:

Right.

Mary:

You know what I mean, like and vice versa. Respect in our relationship is very important because you know we are a power couple and with that, you know, comes power. Let's just say in everything that we do and where in our relationship we don't have that. Actually we don't do power games. We're both equal. Our table is a round table and we're both. We're both at the same, at the same plateau there, and and I think that that's really beautiful because we come together disarmed, knowing that you know, you're my equal and we're able to love each other for what we are, with no power.

Randy:

And, if I could just jump in there, I love that part because you know, as a man, and you know we come from Hispanic, right, we come from a Hispanic culture where you know you have that machista aspect where, like I'm the man and you know I work and you stay home and you clean and cook. We don't have those type of roles. With the roles that Mary and I have defined for each other is like, all right, what are you really good at? What am I really good at? What do you hate doing? What do I hate doing? Okay, let's take those things away and let's figure out how just to make this work right. So, like I'm the, I'm the person that cooks at home right. And that's just because I'm no offense better than you at that and I enjoy cooking, right. It's like. Then the other aspect of it is like You're the one that is really primary with our girls on, like the day to day stuff, like giving them the bath and making sure that they're going to school, right, and it's not because I'm a shit head parent or because I'm like, oh, you're the female and you got to do that. It's more because you're really good at that shit. Like you're really really good at that. And guys, I'm not saying that just because I'm trying to get away from that. She is really good at that. So we are able to leverage each other's strengths and say what are you good at, what am I good at? Okay, we're on the same page. We're just trying to make this shit work.

Mary:

Yeah, absolutely Responsibility which is another core value which is goes right in hand with that. This is the part where everything that we have talked about in the past you know in the last couple of minutes it's about our roles. Again, this is where we bring our defined roles in our relationship into play, and it's being responsible to stepping up when things are difficult. As mentioned before, randy and I went to a very difficult patch where we almost got a divorce and should we had been responsible individuals and stepped up into our goals, I don't think that that would have happened. And through that experience we have been able to understand how important it is for us to step up when things are critical. You know, if Randy is having he's not having a good week personally, I have to step up at work and make sure that I'm not bothering him with just like stupid questions. You know, sometimes we bounce ideas from each other, but sometimes we don't have to do that. If Randy is having, let's say, a bad personal week, I have to step it up in all other aspects and only bother him when absolutely is necessary. So I don't take away from whatever you're going through and add more stress to you. So that's my way of being responsible and stepping up.

Randy:

Yeah, and that goes to a lot of things, if I can jump in there again is on the aspect of not just if I'm, you know, not to bother me, but I think we have that Responsibility to each other. To me to communicate to you and say, mary, right now I can't, like I got some shit going on at work, there's some issues, there's this, there's a big meeting coming up that I need to focus. I just can't, and you, right away, step up and have the responsibility to fill in where I just can't.

Mary:

Yeah, yeah. And our final one and we probably have other more, but the one that really brings it all together is our core value of growth mindset. Yeah, that one's hands down.

Randy:

for me, I think, the most important one. I'm not down playing the other right, because you have to have trust, you have to have a response. I get all that, but for me, the growth mindset hits on all the points because we're constantly thinking what's really the best thing for us, even though I might hate it, even though I might not like it. Even though it might put me in an uncomfortable situation or you in an uncomfortable situation is what we're doing right now helping us grow? And I think again I'm going to hit on that example we learned that through the simple not simple but through the issue that we had where we were able to get through the growth mindset, where we were fighting you know, we fight all the time, we still fight to this day, right, it's not like it's perfect, but through that major issue with that downfall that we had, where we learn like shit, you know, we work so hard for so many years and then we had these problems and it set us back so much, right. And through that experience I think we've learned like, ok, I get that part and I get that sometimes you have that emotion piece, but that's not helping us grow. And if it's not helping us grow, then let's not do it, because Then is hurting our kids, is hurting our future, is hurting all the hard work that we've put in. And for what? Right. So we stick to that growth mindset of like, ok, mary, we might not like this, that's not the direction you might go. Hey, it might be failure in how failure is defined, but it's going to help us continue to grow as individuals. And I think it goes to not just in the business side of it but the personal side of it too. We're constantly like, ok, this will be a failure, but that's OK, because at least we learn through it and at least we we got something out of it and at least we're growing as individuals, personally, mentally, through this, this whole journey. And you know, one more core value that I think I want to highlight is the accountability piece. Right, because we that's really important Responsibility, you can kind of go through that. But the accountability piece to me, I think, is extremely important, because the accountability is kind of like I'm accountable to do my part, right, and my part there's a lot of parts to that Right, but you're accountable to do your part, yeah, right. So taking that and saying, hey, this didn't work out, but I'm not going to just blame you, I'm going to take accountability for that and say it didn't work out because I didn't do X, right, right. And vice versa. For you say, ok, well, you're right, it didn't work out. Well, what didn't didn't I do Right. And I think those pieces are essential as well. And then one more thing that I think I want you to hit on if you can. Yeah, that I think is important is. I think is important is how do we and how do you see it from your perspective of how we're able to switch from things on a daily right? Like we wake up, we have breakfast, right, and then it's like, while we're having breakfast, we're talking about business. And then, you know, tomorrow I can wake up and the first thing I tell you is, oh shit, we got this business meeting or we got this opportunity happening today. And then the following morning I'm like hey, babe, I love you. Right, I did it for you. You know, talk a little bit about that from your perspective.

Mary:

Yeah Well, I mean, frankly it's I'm already used to it. So for me it's kind of like second nature, it's like changing gears on a car, like you know, I'm not going to say that sometimes you just like surprise me and I'm like what the fuck? It's seven o'clock in the morning, like why. But quite frankly, everything that happens to us is has to do with each other and the way that we pivot conversations, even through flipping pancakes. These are conversations that have to have had, like sometimes by Randy not mentioning something that early at the top of the morning it can really impact the way that we finish the day, because there might be a deal that may be brewing on the table that if we don't talk about it the minute that we wake up, we might lose it and that opportunity might not be there. That could be with a car, that could be with a, with a property and anything, a phone call that we have to make. That is absolutely critical. So you know, you know I no longer get offended by like us talking about these things, because I have been very overprotective about things like breakfast, lunch and dinner, like hey, when we eat, no phones, let's just be with each other and our kids are at the table. But sometimes you know you just have to like take an L and like have those conversations because there's really no other time, like we're busy, and we don't take that lightly and we don't take that as an excuse. It's just that we are busy, so it's absolutely necessary sometimes and we make up for it in other ways.

Randy:

Yeah, and I guys, I'm trying to highlight I did that on purpose there, right, Because that was one of our trials and our tribulations that we had through learning this, and I wanted to make sure that I brought that up immediately in our first episode in terms of we had to learn how to do that how to have that specific skill and be able to turn it on and turn it off Right, and that's a hell of a skill to master. It's going to be very difficult to do for you, or, if you've done that already, congratulations. But we've learned that it was very difficult to get to that point, but it's essential to have that ability to turn it off and turn it on. Talk business one minute, be personal the next minute, yeah, right. So look, we won't keep on with you know, continuing to talk a lot. But look, follow us on Instagram at thebrokmillenaire, at Mariman, subscribe to our channel, make sure that you're watching this podcast, make sure that you're sharing the podcast, make sure, like Mary said, comment and let us know the things you want to hear. We have so many good things brewing for you and the stuff that we want to talk about in our experience, but I think you'll find you'll also be able to take the journey that we continue to go on. We have a lot of exciting stuff that's happening in our personal life and in business life as well. We're redefining some of our businesses, we're actually building our dream house and we're changing the way. We have some vacations that are planned, that are coming up, that are pretty cool. So just follow us, subscribe, share this like it. Let us know what you think and we'll continue to bring this to you and we'll you know in the other episodes. Again, this was an introduction. In the other episodes we'll make sure that we dive deep into the hard, nice, meaty topics.

Mary:

Yes, I can wait, and, talking about meaty topics, I'll give you some upcoming titles that are in the works, one of them being situation or situation, ship or relationship. I'll leave it at that the pre-work before the one.

Randy:

That's a good one. That's a really good one.

Mary:

I can't wait until we do that one. And money does buy happiness.

Randy:

I like it.

Mary:

I like it.

Randy:

Those are three of them. We got, like what? Six or seven already planned.

Mary:

Yeah, okay, good. So those are all the teasers.

Randy:

Those are all little teasers. Yeah, those are good. I'm actually looking forward to the one, the pre-work before the one. Yeah yeah, that's essential, right? Because people again, with that one and I don't want to go into it, but I'm excited about it I get the question all the time is like how you got lucky when you met Mary and I'm like, well, I did, Okay, I get that part, but I also was ready for Mary. I did a lot of stuff and have experienced a lot of things and I changed a lot to be able to be ready for a person like Mary. And I'll leave it at that because I don't want to get into the full episode. So, with that guys, thank you so much for joining us for the first episode. We know it's a short, but we just wanted to do the introduction Again, look us up. Follow us at the Broke Millionaire. Check out our website where we have our car business, howmotorluxcom. You can see our vehicles, you see what we're working on there. I think you'll find it pretty exciting. Follow my wife at Marimal and watch this video over and over and over and here's podcast over and over and over and tell us what you think.

Mary:

Awesome, it's been great. Thank you, guys All right Bye. We have Ziegel.

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