House of Wolves - A Power Couple's Playbook

Power Couple: From Boardroom to Living Room

November 27, 2023 Randy & Mary Vasquez Episode 2
House of Wolves - A Power Couple's Playbook
Power Couple: From Boardroom to Living Room
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Wondering how to navigate the tricky terrain of merging marital bliss with business acumen? Join us, Mary and Randy, as we unravel the complexities of not just cohabiting as a couple, but also co-running businesses. Get ready to glean insights from our journey, as we land on the winning formula that balances our personal and professional lives.

Our dynamic as co-CEOs is not a power struggle but a harmony of strategic collaboration. As we share our distinct roles, you'll understand how Mary's prowess in managing day-to-day operations beautifully complements Randy's skills in strategic planning and long-term growth. We also shed light on our experiences with external partners such as banks, and how acknowledging and leveraging each other's strengths has been a recipe for success.

In the home stretch of our discussion, we dive deeper into the significance of identifying and capitalizing on each other's strengths, comprehending triggers, and carving out clear roles. Hear us talk about the essence of personal evolution through failures, and how our unified vision has kept us on track, even when our individual passions steered us in different directions. Drawing inspiration from successful individuals like Jay-Z, we emphasize the power of a shared end goal, and how it can be the cornerstone of success in both personal and professional relationships.

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Speaker 2:

Welcome to another episode of the how Podcast IJ laundry list.

Speaker 1:

greeting from I was ladder gagging and then my mom was in the room doing I was on time with her. She's in the room soon. And just a little something, you know, resting out my hair. Okay, just have an electric eyeliner glitter in my eyes.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I'm ready for the time. No, no, no, this is what happens.

Speaker 1:

This is what usually happens. If you see a girl on the street or you're out, go out. This girl has a lot of makeup for like 11 am. What ends up happening is that you start, you have like a vision in your head all year I'm going to like just super light, natural, and then you do an eyeliner, a liquid liner, and then one eye. You fuck up on one eye.

Speaker 2:

OK.

Speaker 1:

And then you have to go, and I go a little over now. So fix what you did. Wow, I had to erase your whole face.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I know, I hate when that shit happens.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, exactly, and then you'd go and do more night on one side and then, next to you know, you're like oh, they're not really even. I just have to add more liner on this one.

Speaker 2:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And next to you know, yeah, and you see how I've been and it was tough.

Speaker 2:

I feel like it's an oven and then you still end up being fucked up somewhere. It's never perfect.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it's not perfect. So if you look, there's like not a lot of.

Speaker 2:

Not like. I like you, but yeah, it's not, no, it's not so a lot happening, a lot going on in our lives. This week has been extremely busy as well, and it's always busy, but this week especially, I think we are at that stage right. We're usually aware it's kind of like we have so many things happening and it's like at any moment we're going through all this frustration at any moment, like seven big can pop off yeah, I can go through or seven things can fucking go negative, and then that's another whole conversation, but I feel like we're at that point this week. So it's been a pretty busy, interesting week.

Speaker 1:

It really has. And TMI, like if we had a reality show, then all that felt for to be amazing content, because this year that's been happening.

Speaker 2:

I'll be what they were fucking just crazy just straight up nuts.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so you know, I could have said that because I don't know where it's like, I don't know. Yes, wow, all right, so little money and credit, and then let's jump in.

Speaker 2:

Let's jump in the action. Probably what are we talking about today.

Speaker 1:

It's business, not personal.

Speaker 2:

It's business, not personal. You said that really really serious, yeah, and because it is it's business is not personal.

Speaker 1:

So as as cute as you and I can be sometimes which people don't get to see that, but we were super cute and my great when it's business is game time bitches.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, Right Like it's time. It's time to go. So this episode is especially important and mean a lot to us because I think this summarizes you know, we the previous episode we did on marriage and talked about how you know our views on marriage and talked about how we've been able to work together and kind of sustain this right even through bad times. I think this one is especially important because it kind of ties in the whole factor of how, again why we're a power couple. Not only are we winning in marriage right, because we're still together If you're still together, you're fucking winning and we're also winning on the other side in terms of the businesses that we continue to grow, the lifestyle that we continue to have, as well as the income that we continue to have, the assets that we're building, the life that we're building for our kids, so on and so on, and all of that is through our partnership, right. So the emotional side, the personal side. But then now we have to do this inside and we'll talk a little bit about that today?

Speaker 1:

Yeah, absolutely. And then the main point of this episode is to let Randy said now that I actually do work.

Speaker 2:

My dad said this day what you've been out of corporate America Six, five, Like six, five, five, six years. And my dad said this day doesn't think that you do anything.

Speaker 1:

No.

Speaker 2:

He's like your hints assistant.

Speaker 1:

I'm his assistant. Yeah, 100% Gas, hilarious, 100%. I'm like yeah.

Speaker 2:

How many times have you said no money, but you have time all the time.

Speaker 1:

I made time for him and I love that he bothers me. I hate him where he bothers me.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

But I love helping him. Okay, he's cool then yeah, but the sentence load is for him, it's for him.

Speaker 2:

So let him know. We're going to translate on the bottom In Spanish. You're going to put the sub type. Yeah, exactly this is the right thing 100%. So I'm going to focus a lot of things on this one how we are able to sustain a partnership in our businesses and keep the emotional side out of it, Because it's hard enough to just build, to be with somebody. It's hard enough to be a boyfriend and girlfriend or to have a spouse or partner or whatever it is with somebody else. It's harder to keep a marriage, especially when you have kids and you have a lot of other stuff going on Two individuals trying to come together but then to keep a business partner as well and keep that going and still have some happiness. Right, Because the way that I look at it and explain to people is you have to understand, like, Mary is the only person. I mean I have friends that actually do that because I have really good relationships but Mary is the only person that sees me for who I am on a daily basis, every day my vulnerable state, my good state. She knows who I am, my assholeness, right, when I could be that, and she's the one that challenges me. Right, and that closeness brings a lot of emotion to it. Right, how many people say, oh, my fucking wife does this or my husband does that and your wife is the only one that's able to say that, or your husband's only able to say that. So imagine now taking all that emotion and all that freedom of speech that you have right and adding that to a business partner that you're working with on a daily basis, trying to make money. You rely on making money. You rely on.

Speaker 1:

Right, yeah, yeah, it's really difficult, and not for anything, but this is kind of like all we love brain already because I feel like I wouldn't have it any other way. It's very difficult because when we started it was like on training wheels. We were just learning how to work with each other and learning our things and learning the business. We have one or two businesses that we just went into it without even knowing and we just like made it come down. So working with your spouse can be challenging, specifically because of the whole emotional side, and this is the reason why we named it. It's business, not personal, because it is really hard to like. Let's say, you plan, this is a give-a-scenario. Let's say you say OK, babe, tonight I'm going to order sushi, we're going to bring a bottle to the road, or we're going to watch two episodes in a row, we're going to spend some time and go to bed. We're business partners, we make those plans, we're busy with allocate time. Everybody's like showered by 8 PM, you bring the sushi, bring the wine and you fall asleep 15 minutes into the first episode. Yeah, you're pissed as shit I'm mad as fuck. Yeah, mad as fuck. First of all, I'm drinking by myself now, right?

Speaker 2:

True.

Speaker 1:

No Netflix and chill.

Speaker 2:

Right yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, right. And then I'm like, ok, I guess I have to reach over and get this remote, turn it off and go to sleep like piss as hell. But in the morning you want to act like nothing ever happened. Oh, it's a big morning, I forgot it here.

Speaker 2:

I mean that shit's a good.

Speaker 1:

Right.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

And then you have breakfast. You don't have time to like hey, what the fuck happened? I was saying I can't sleep, you know, and it's time to work. What are your options? A are you going to talk about this right before you go to work? And, by me, go to work is work in your business, on your hustle, on your thing, Right To where you're going to put those side and be like you know what I'm going to catch him tonight. Yeah, I don't want to talk about it. That's a real gross shit to do. Right Like being pretty hard To hustle. So, hold that all day and show up at work your business and kind of like do your thing, you know. Like, hey, what do we have going on today? Like go to the virtual, go to the list and then like nothing ever happened. But you're like still kind of like pissing aside and I'm not saying this is like things that people get really pissed off about. It's like a silly example, but I'm just letting you know that this is like real shit. That really happens all the time, you know, and like we have to make a choice every morning, Right, and the choice has to come organically. It's not like I feel like we're in a bitch today.

Speaker 2:

Right.

Speaker 1:

It almost kind of like OK, man, get the fuck over, let's get this guy, we'll, we'll. We'll find some time to talk about what just happened, If you really bothered me that much.

Speaker 2:

Right, exactly. And you have to be able to put that aside to be able to have a successful day of work. Right, doing what you're doing without adding you know, it's like they say don't bring your here, don't bring your life, don't bring your personal shit to to work. Right, it's the same exact thing. Right, you don't want to bring your personal shit to work even though your personal shit is at work. Right, you don't want to.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, you're right, but I like the way that. Oh my God, what's his name? Jordan, the Wolf of Wall Street. What's, yeah, so his satin nights? Right, when he was designing the trade line method, he pretty much trained everybody. The culture at that organization was that you leave all your shit at the door, right, literally at the door. Everybody has to leave. Take off that book bag, leave all your baggage at, you know, at the door, literally Right. Come inside, smile Right, learn that script. Right, pick up those phones with your freaking pearls. Out and get to business and think about money, make money. How much are you making this hour? What are you closing?

Speaker 2:

Regardless of whatever you were going to.

Speaker 1:

Regardless of what you're doing. So you know why? Because other person online doesn't give a fuck.

Speaker 2:

Right, exactly.

Speaker 1:

And if you're gonna come into work being petty and being old and wheelchair, having an email day, then you're gonna have an email pocket.

Speaker 2:

Right, and that's a perfect example. Right, like our clients don't give a shit Our business, the loans that we have, the banks that we owe, the assets that we're trying to get, the shit that we invested. They don't give a shit about what we're dealing with on a personal level, right, they just give a shit about getting shit done for us, right, pay us our money. They don't give a shit. Opportunity doesn't care about your fucking emotions, right? So I think that that's a good way to put it. Yeah, so you just get your shit out the door and come in and be able to just push through and figure shit out for your job, for your business, for what you're trying to do and be successful there, and then you can deal with the personal shit and come on the time.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, literally that's the entire episode right there. Like you have to be able to take off that trench coat, hang it up, put on your let's make money hat. Kill that role, kill it, kill it. Know your lines, practice before practice, show up MVP type status when the day work is over, as from point for entrepreneurs. Your work every day, every hour, every night, every night, every day, every day, every day, so you can put that cold back on and have that conversation with your husband about hey, babe, honestly, I was really looking forward to that last night and you fell asleep on me. That was kind of douche baggy. Yeah, come through the shirt again, cause you know like I'm shaking my legs. Yeah, I like it. You don't put again time for that. I think you'll love that in the next time. I'm gonna go get my shirt. I'm gonna go get my shirt. I'm gonna go get my shirt.

Speaker 2:

I'm gonna go get my shirt.

Speaker 1:

I'm gonna go get my shirt. See you about that in the next time.

Speaker 2:

Look how you and I work together. Let me run through that really quickly so people get an understanding Right, I'll just give an example. We have the multiple business that we continue to mention. The property management business and the car rental business are two of our main ones in the construction one those three businesses. How you and I work together is pretty simple, and the way that I like to predict the time is Mary is we're both CEOs. There is no combative nature of I own this or she owns this. No, we own that together. There's no power games. There's no power games. We leave that at the door as well, because we understand that we have one common goal that we're trying to achieve. That's what I say with you know. You've seen it in front of me. Say before our core values, our goals, what we establish, who we want to be when we grow up. We're working towards that. We don't give a shit about who's in charge when people are in charge, whatever it takes and whatever it takes to get to that. That's what we're working towards, and if we achieve that, then we both know we did something good. So we're both CEOs. Right, there is no co. We're both fucking CEOs, but Mary operates more in no time intended. And the COO? Where's the chief operating officer of all our businesses? That's what's right. There is our strengths and we'll talk about that. And you, your primary goal and job is to manage the day to day operations, the day to day shit that happens. You manage that. You manage our clients. You manage the, the opera again, the operations. How we're going to move one thing from here to there. What is? What are we going to do at 10 or 11, at 12 or one o'clock, what else has to get done? When you and I sit down and do a list of shit that has to get done, if you have like 27 and I had like fucking two, it's because you're dealing with all this detail.

Speaker 1:

All you are birds eye and I'm here at ground level.

Speaker 2:

Right. So what do I do in my, in my role is pretty simple. What I do is I'm the I'm the strategic quote unquote person, I'm the mind or I am the person that says, okay, how are we going to invest our money? What else are we going to do? How are we going to grow the business? Where are we going to move shit around? What are the things that we need to do to make sure that we're sustaining in the longterm? Is this getting us in the right direction? Yeah, I work with you and I'm like Mary, hey, maybe we're not going the right way, maybe you should pivot, that's, maybe we should do this, maybe we should do that. So I think about how we're going to continue to grow the business, how we're going to continue to sustain it. I think about longer term. What are what we're doing today going to get us to those goals? And I just and I focus on that. So why am I laundry list of things? Are there only two? If I'm working on very high end, really complicated things? How are we going to get long list Right? What is the right? If it's a comment, what is the right cars to buy? I spent all day. That's a pain. Yeah, I spent all day speaking to realtors. I spent all day on parking realtors calm, I've more ad brokers, mortgage brokers, looking at different loan options, understanding what's happening on parking social media, on just reading articles, understanding you know, what can we buy, where can we go, where's the market going. So understanding the strategic view right, and then again very stressful of working with banks and working with mortgage officers and working with, you know, a dealership and and trying to figure out those pieces and what partnerships are we gonna do. Those are the things that take a lot of time I'm still like a lot of strategic kind of thinking to be able to accomplish it. So you and I have our very specific roles that we deal with and that's how we're able to kind of sustain this business relationship and really meets the first one in yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 1:

I mean, it's probably you know the friend then. Well, oh my god, I'm gonna like show me something for this, one kind of like how Apple got started. You know, you have a person with like a huge vision and there's someone here that actually knows how to write that program and create a product that encompasses that vision. Right, and I'm that builder. I Build things not because I tinkle with my hands, but because I'm able to improvise. Yeah, half my child was improvising half the time. Right, there's so many things, especially this digital world, like this world is moving so fast. So the minute that you learn something and you put me on, I'm like, fuck, I gotta learn one more thing, you know, and I have to figure that out because it is absolutely vital. Again, right, and I wear so many different hats, but at another day he's up here right thinking, thinking in the clouds, thinking, thinking when he brings down his solid ideas. It's kind of like a conversation and then I'm here like actually that sounds great. But I already think that's gonna work because right if you think about this.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think about that because you know the competition.

Speaker 1:

Right, and what would that mean? That will actually be a nightmare, yeah, and then we just come back to the table reshadowed guys, and then, yeah, that feedback.

Speaker 2:

No, I sent it to them. Point.

Speaker 1:

No, no, but honestly, like I, I don't have the shreds, the ability to bandwidth the brain to do the things you do right and that's what makes you amazing and I think that that's what makes our companies so great because I am and I think we mentioned this in a previous episode Is that I am here right now. Like right, I'm like in a mirror. I don't see beyond that. Like I am here right now, I don't know what I'm doing tomorrow, but you are such a visionary and and and and.

Speaker 2:

I don't want to be in a day-to-day, I don't want to be in the detail, right that shit.

Speaker 1:

I love it. I need to know yeah, I can't.

Speaker 2:

I can't deal with that, and you know We'll talk about why, why we get, we get there. And then just one more point before we do that, you know another part of our roles and I think you mentioned a little bit about it. I want to make sure that people is that again, it's just you and me right. We've done this intentionally because we keep it within the family. You know, we've always had this mentality of let us in. If we grow this shit together, then at the end of the day, no matter what happens, its cars right and it's what we built. There's nobody else involved and I've always looked at it as who better to have than your significant other to be your business partner? Because ultimately they have, they should, and if they don't, then You're in the wrong fucking relationship. But they shouldn't have the best interest For you. They should have the best interest for your, your well-being, for your success, for who you're gonna be, who you want to be, your happiness, right, and ultimately want you to succeed. No, and if that's what your significant other wants for you, then you have the right person and as a case, and why not build with that person? Yeah, you can ultimately really trust that we're doing the right thing. So I played a role as well, not just a strategic side, but I also play the role as Mary's advisor. Right, there's challenges and things that she goes through on a daily basis that then she put them back to me and my own personal demon, yeah, and she actually tells me, hey, this happened, what do you think here, what do you think there? And I'm able to then provide a different perspective and say, hey, listen, this is what I would do in that situation. All right, that's your decision. If you want to do that, I have that. That's my opinion. I'm here to support you. What do you need me to do? Sometimes I have to roll up my sleeve and for I can go change a tire, right, if I need to. Or sometimes I have to go fix a roof.

Speaker 1:

I'll go fly somebody out with the saxophone.

Speaker 2:

Whatever the case is, sometimes I have to wear that different hat, but is in order to support you. Yeah, likewise you do for me, like you just mentioned, where I'm like, hey, mary, listen, I'm thinking that we should invest here, I'm thinking that we should do this with the business over here, and here's how this is gonna work. And then you're like, wait, actually, yeah, but this is where I see challenges and you come and challenge me on that and then I come back Okay, can we overcome that challenge now? Okay, and you provide that sort of consultation to me. That really helps me in my day today.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, no, it's absolutely fantastic and I think I applaud us and this is, I guess, me saying yes to this podcast has been away, as we kind of like saluting. Oh yeah us to the what we have been able to achieve, because this is not about Monetary assets. It's also about the power. Couple concept is also about the power of union, of unity, the team To gather in this family, like you know what really is mine is yours and was yours is really mine, and we are both in here with the same intention. Can you imagine who else can partner with you at this capacity? Right that has a hundred percent the same intent as you right, yeah somebody else we cover that in order. I was over like, okay, you have a business part of cool Mm-hmm, they're better at you as something and you're better at something else. Yeah, they don't know. The family defeat.

Speaker 2:

Right, exactly, and that's their priority.

Speaker 1:

No, we're gonna want to go old, they're gonna shoot first, yeah absolutely.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, no, you're right, that's a good point. I think we would have put out like that, like that, that's um, not so for long. Let's get into sort of you know, the, the, the things that have really helped us. You know, we talked a lot about core values in the past and we'll continue to talk about that because it was a very important. But what are the things that really have helped us? Right, the three main things that I think you and I talk about consistently, that say, hey, here's how you know we are gonna make sure that we continue to success on our role. So one number one I'll start off there is, you know, understanding each other, personalities and skill sets. All right, I'll add that to it, and what I mean by that is understanding. You know I took some time, but really taking the time to assess and know. You know who is Mary, you know what are her triggers, her personalities, what, what sets her off, what is she in a good mood, when does she give an attitude, you know what's the pet peeves, what is she like, what is she like what, and understanding how she deals with stuff on a day-to-day. Basically, that was very important to understand. How much can I throw at her yeah, how much can I give her? What type of person is she? Employee, she's gonna be right, and that's one point, but also understanding. So the skills. And I think you said it right you handle the operation side, because you're really fucking good at that shit.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

That's what it is. It's not because I said, oh, I want. No, you're really good at that.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

And, like you said, you usually operate in the. Now I'm really good at just fucking thinking big. Like I'm creative. I enjoy that.

Speaker 1:

You're fearless when you're thinking.

Speaker 2:

I'm fearless when I'm thinking, I take more risks. It's just who I am and what I enjoy doing. Right, it's a part of me, right, like that's. So we've always talked about how do we leverage each other's strengths versus picking at each other's weakness Right, and that's been important to us. Right, and I think one of the biggest pieces for that is, and a resource that we'll give, is Strength Finders. Right, strength Finders is a book that we read. We read the book, we understood the book, we did the assessment and with the assessment, you understand what type of personality, type of person you are and where your skill sets, where your strengths, yeah, and not worry about your weaknesses.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, we all know what our.

Speaker 2:

For our leadership aspect, right, but we all know what our leadership or weaknesses are. Math, right, yeah yeah. Operations I get that shit. We all know what our weaknesses and what we all like doing, so why not? You know, if you have a partner, why not leverage their skill sets? You're good at communication. I fucking hate communications. I don't want to type, I don't want to write, I can't fucking spell, right, you're like a beast of that shit. So you handle all communications? Yeah, but I don't want to do it. It's just you're better at it.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Right Again. We talked about that even in the marriage side. It's not that I don't want to do stuff, it's just that you're better at it. So why not leverage that Right and vice versa right For me and you can. You want to give them another one?

Speaker 1:

Yeah, well, I mean, for me exactly it's about understanding the personalities, but for me, to piggyback on what you said, it's really about real clarity. You know, once you know where you stand in your marriage and the kind of wives, husband, partner that you want to be, it also translates into business as well. Like if you have a good sense of self and you know what are your strengths, your weaknesses, your triggers, your pet peeves exactly what Randy said if you have a good sense of self and you can understand like hey, I don't know if I can handle this part of the business, because I just definitely know I'm gonna like suck at it. Right you know, if I'm an introvert, then I'm not gonna be doing investor relations. Right, yeah, I might be entertaining people because nobody's gonna invest. Right, yeah, I think that's a good thing to see. But real clarity for us is literally kind of like a cornerstone for us, is a value for us, because it really gives us the autonomy to be able to live in different bubbles. So, for example, marriage is responsible for these particular things. These are absolutely. It's kind of like juggling different moons these are my moons, this is what I manage, these are my worlds, right? Or bits are all floating. Nothing's at a balance. I own that. Randy has his set of moons and Randy's responsible for those. So I don't go and jump ship and go to Randy's and like, oh, your moon's looking a little cloudy right now. What's going on there? No, no, no, I don't have to worry about it, because that's Randy, that's Randy's job. If that moon is cloudy, trust me, there's a reason why she's fucking cloudy, right, you know, he's probably buying shade on another one and there's really a plan for that, because we have invested trust in each other. So, even if it's at a glance, I see that something's a little off. I'm like there's gotta be an answer to that and I'm not even gonna go into that. And then there are things in the world, clarity and just like defining those roles. It's so important is that there are also things that we come together and that's our things. Joints it Like you're not gonna come and tell me like how to run my operations, right? No, right, I'm operations. You can give me an opinion, but it will be me to decide for that. But there's absolutely things that we have to come together and come as a couple and be like hey, listen, absolutely not Like you cannot make certain decisions without me because it's just we just can't do that.

Speaker 2:

No, I love that and I think I'm sorry to jump in there. I'm always saying that, but when you hit on points I wanna say something Cool. It's so important to respect that right. I think that's part of the role clarity, that is giving the respect and comfort level to for it to be okay if you're not doing it, the right way for me to be okay with that and allow that failure to happen. If it does happen, for your own personal growth and development, absolutely Right. So not me trying to correct everything or take control over everything You're saying. You know what. I need to be okay with her making this mistake, even though I know it's a mistake. She's gonna crash, she's gonna crash. I need to be able to be okay, unless, you know, sometimes I do jump in or like marry, listen bro. This can be really fucking bad. If you do that. She like chill the fuck out. And sometimes you do that for me and, like you know, don't put money into that chill Fat, because it can be a disaster. But if there's times like that, then you need that advice. But those times where, like you know what, I'm gonna let it go, I'm gonna be okay with it. What's the worst that can happen. Shit might go wrong, but it's cool because she's gonna learn from this shit, yeah. And then after everything's done that, I jump in and help you with it and figure it all out. And then it's like, hey, listen, we could have done this better on this here's rent off, and then we can have that conversation right and be able to move forward. But you have to be able to have that respect to say, listen, that's her thing, I gotta let it go. I can't control everything.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, 100%, and I also feel like it helps with our productivity. You know, if we're both managing everything, then we're not really excelling at anything. I'm putting my hands on this, you're putting your hands on it. We're never gonna get anything done Because we're always gonna be fighting each other's opinions. So by giving us the autonomy, it really does allow us to excel much faster and get to our finish line a lot sooner. And that it invested trust. Like you know, like Randy understands my strengths, so if he didn't, there's no way that he would have deposited that amount of responsibility if I couldn't handle it. And that is the bottom line. Like it's about that trust and understanding and respecting your partner with that type of responsibility. I love it.

Speaker 2:

And then let me just give the last one, because I think we're starting to run close on time. Yeah, you know we want to make sure that we respect the time right. The last one is pretty simple. It's grow the fuck up, right. And it's hard to be so blunt and so direct, but some people just have to go out, have to put away their emotions right, have to stop taking things so personal and understand that, like this is business, right, like you're trying to achieve something here. I mean you hear this like a lot of motivated motivational speakers and people will talk about. Like sometimes you just got to fucking put on your big boy pants and fucking get to work. And this is the same situation for us and it's something that's been a bit of a fuss, where it's like, yes, you gotta go fuck up right now. Like I know you're pissed off about some shit that happened last night and fucking fall asleep or maybe something bigger. Right, make that mistake last night. But, bro, we need to make fucking money right now. And this is important. And this is much more important than what the fuck happened last night, because this can mean life altering. You and I can talk about that shit later. We have to be able to grow the fuck up and be able to put that aside and just work and accomplish what you need to do right then and there, and then you can come and re-exit.

Speaker 1:

Yes, I could have done better. I really think that it's part of maturity, right, I expect no less. If you're married, if you're in a serious relationship, you're trying to work in a business, or just marriage alone, like take this aside like You're adulting, like I, you're an adult. Like I expect no less. Right, I expect no less. Yeah, you're playing with, you know the well-being of your household. Yeah, if you don't learn to put your feelings aside, there's a time and a moment for everything and I really do feel that. The magic of mastering how to control your emotions, that's huge. And Communication, how you're able to communicate one of the things that we didn't touch on, which is a little bit going back to understanding Personalities and all that. It's about the love language part you know, part of Randy. Success through you know, converting this. I didn't success as well. Okay, You've been successful at my already like how, like you know, like I'm very stubborn in my way of thinking right, I'm so coachable these days. So, the growth mindset a party success has been when we decided to learn about our personalities and our love language and how you're like. Oh my god, it's not that I wasn't saying the right thing, it's just that I wasn't saying it in the right way. That made Mary feel that I loved her and I trusted her. Right, so we can talk what you want about your you know, high-level birds I view crazy. Let's build this rocket and go to Mars type thing. Why I'm a risk Medigator. I'm like, excuse me, rule, for example, mars. Oh, we weren't ours. What are you doing? Yeah, we got a babe. You know how dope it would be if we go to Mars.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

I know we can do it. You know, okay, babe, how are we gonna do that? Like, do we have money for that? We build our worship? Yeah, and then actually, and then that I you allow me to execute the idea right, because that's what I'm good at yeah, like, like, just putting it together. But you mentioned my new whole thing. Yeah, and it's all about work play. Wording is so important.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and it's of two important to you and I've learned that. So I learned how to Respect input. Put into perspective of like, okay, how do I? You know there's a lot to say, oh, you're lucky that you have somebody, that this is down and supports you and all shit that you want to do. I'm like actually, no, she done. But I spent fucking 80% of my time trying to convince her and lay it out which, which way should it go and how does it look? And me, you know, strategic, right, strategically, making sure that I'm like, okay, well, what is she gonna say? How she can charge it, you know. And then I propose it to you, like, hey, this is this how we're gonna do, because it and no worry, because this is right, and understanding what matters to you has been, has been important and it's helping in that. Yeah all right, so let's close this out on a million dollar tip.

Speaker 1:

I don't know. Honestly, I really don't think they has had been called a fuck up being a doll. If you already want to have a business with your partner, then do it. You're already had sex.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, like there's a word. Yeah, you can do it. I'm human, there's all the best thing or the best thing.

Speaker 1:

I mean I was thinking very morbid, but go fuck up, it just got done. Like you're really in a relationship if you're already like a lead. Like you know, you guys are like right or dies. Like you guys can conquer anything right, you can do anything. Marriage alone is far more. Hard more complicated than one in their business. Yeah, yes, there's financial stress, this, but there's no need. The entire one part just dresses to me Well, yes, but okay. But okay, let's not just consider that everybody doesn't know what you're doing and all I'm saying is is that, just because you don't have to run a little time-earning dollar business tomorrow, you can start small because start, you know, leaning in on your talents and sell a service. You just sell one service that you don't care. You have a business. Nobody's gonna take that away to me.

Speaker 2:

I'm not dollars or dollars You're so go at your own pace.

Speaker 1:

Lean in on each other's trends, not the weaknesses, right? I was never gonna fix that. I mean a little, but they're never gonna be great. So lean in on those charts, make those better and you will be 100% unstoppable.

Speaker 2:

I like it.

Speaker 1:

And I think that that's what has helped us.

Speaker 2:

Yeah right, I like it. No, I love it. It's a good one. I would say minute. Other tip I stay focused on the ball. I think if you do that, you stay focused. And look, we talked a lot about, you know, building a business and starting a business and working in a business together. It doesn't always have to be that when you're a power couple and when you're together You're trying to build. For me and you and I talked a lot about it is you can work at different capacities together, just working on the common goal. Okay, I'll keep saying that over and over and over just work on that common goal. What is it, what is the focus? And just stay focused on that. You know and one example I already went that right Now, he doesn't like cars. Don't give a shit about cars, never have this one, one car like yeah, the G1. That's the only thing. But you I'm kidding, oh okay, you don't give a shit about cars, you're, you've run a car business.

Speaker 1:

Excuse me, I am a, an expert.

Speaker 2:

You're the expert, nice facts and you learn to be an expert. But it wasn't because you have passion for you. No, it was because you and I found that opportunity and we said you know, we can jump into this and make cash and make money and build a business that could get us To the ultimate goal. I can help us, give us the cash that we need to continue to buy assets, to continue to buy houses, to continue to use money to invest, and that's what we did. This wasn't about hey, I've really like fucking cars, so I'm one of car business, this is my passion, or any car. It was about yo, is this gonna make us money? Yeah, cool, let's do this shit when I can do this, when we're fucking retired it's not the end goal, but listen, this right now can give us money together to that passive income that we're looking for and that money that we're looking for. So we're gonna do it. So stay fucking focused on the goal, no matter what you're doing, how you're doing, and support each other and build that business. Like jz says, I'm not a businessman, I'm a business man. There's there's meaning to that and I've always thought about that is A couple is a fucking business, regardless of what you're doing, where they have a business or not. So stay focused on that and I think you'll be able to achieve anything.

Speaker 1:

I think we nailed it.

Speaker 2:

I got yeah, all right, choose to choose to jz to the next one.

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